Views on Settling


I’m not going to lie, this blog post was inspired by a movie I just watched called Safe Haven. My story relates to this in a not so dramatic way but none the less I think it’s why I feel the way I do about the topic of “settling” or “not settling” when it comes to getting married. I’ve been told by numerous people, people that care about me and people that are just expressing their views on the subject, to not settle…to wait for the “right one” and that it would be worth it. Well folks, I’ve been married once. I thought he was “the one.” Well, he wasn’t.

I think there’s numerous people out there for everyone and not just ONE. I think if you wait too long looking for what you think fits “the one” category then you might overlook potential happiness that could be right in front of your face. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being picky. I’m just saying I’m not. After going through hell I look at life and all it’s moments with the glass already amost full. I’m happy with my life and who I am and what I have. The only thing missing is someone to share my happiness with.

I don’t have a long list of qualities I MUST HAVE in an eternal companion. Yes, there must be a certain degree of attraction from both ends but that is NOT the first quality I look for. Money isn’t at the top either. The top of the list qualities i cherish are 1) your testimony in Jesus Christ and the gospel and 2) how you value family. Im fairly easy to please. I want to be treated like a human being and not a piece of property. I want to be treated as an equal. I love people, and fall in love fairly easy but that’s ok. I love that I can do that.

For all us mid-singles out there, picky or not picky. We don’t have to have that pressure of finding “the perfect one.” There are more “the one’s” out there than just one. Life is about family. Eternal families. Enjoying your families. Isn’t that why we’re here? To have an earthly family so we can return to our heavenly family? As the holidays go by I find myself thinking about this topic a lot. I wonder if I’m the only one who feels this way, because I haven’t met anyone yet with the same outlook.

(This post is my opion only and not intended to tell anyone how to live or change the way they feel.)


By Rachel Schmidt




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